A leader told us the story of “Lou,” a man he met in a small group shortly after joining their church. Lou and his wife had been in the church for more than fifteen years. He had been a deacon for a time. He had a wonderful wife; his kids were active in the church. On the outside, everything looked great. A few months of sitting in the small group did nothing to change anyone’s opinion either. Lou didn’t speak out a lot, but when he did, it was worth listening to.